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Sex Education

Essential knowledge for life

Human sexuality is an ongoing exploration as we are creative creatures, but sexuality is governed by ignorance, religions, politics, cultural and community beliefs. Sex pervades our lives at every level, it is widely used to sell products and services as well as to win influence or impose control in many spheres of life.

On one level, sex is just a simple act to cause impregnation and we are biologically programmed to do this, yet due to social controls, many are confused about relating and sex. Because so many misunderstand relationships, relationship failures, rape and other coercions are a huge social and criminal problem.

At a personal level knowing one’s body is vital and this knowledge is

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Sex Education

One of the many failures of modern civilisation

For most of us, our parents lives were less than perfect. Like all children, at some point during those formative years, the opposite sex became attractive giving rise to sexual feelings without necessarily having any intellectual appreciation of what was happening.

The transition from childhood through adolescence can be a biochemical nightmare for a great many children. They have hormones flowing through their bodies and sometimes uncontrollable urges are so strong that they have to quickly find a private space to relieve themselves through masturbation or some other activity that relieves the pressure of that energy building up inside of them.

As our parents left us to navigate sexuality alone, most parents

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Sex therapy

An all too common story labelled as love in decline

Benjamin was a brash dominating man who expected his wife of five years to be the perfect wife. That entailed keeping house and serving all his needs. He was not particularly unkind or inconsiderate, he was simply emulating his father’s behaviour toward his mother who suffered from chronic depression.

For the first year, Maryann was happy. Her girlfriends were envious because she had made a good catch, but behind the scenes the novelty was wearing off. It was not that she didn’t love Benjamin, it’s just that they were losing their spark and in his mind, it was her fault.

As her interest in sex wore off and life became

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Pausing the conversation

Defining relationships

I’ve been reading through other people’s stories and ideas about the changes in human relationships. The Christian moral perspective is that anything other than a unrelated male-female relationship is somehow a crime, an attitude that denies the fact that love can exist independently of this ideal. Disease is not discussed, but must be remembered.

So let’s look at some of these situations.

Incest between a father and daughter, or mother and son:

Within some branches of Islam, sex between fathers and daughters, older brothers and sisters is legal and encouraged as is marriage between cousins. But when these relationships produce children, genetic weaknesses and mutations occur giving rise to physical deformities and mental illnesses. This has also

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The Menstrual Cycle

A rite of passage

The menstrual cycle occurs in women and periods can begin as young as age six or seven in populations affected by environmental poisoning. But more commonly they start any-time between the ages of nine to fifteen years.

Menstruation can start before or during the growth of breasts. Menstruation and ovulation results from of a very complex and delicately balanced chemical cycle that mature females go through every month or so.

What is a menstrual cycle? The menstrual cycle is how a woman’s body prepares for the possibility of pregnancy each month. A cycle usually averages about 28 days long and starts on the first day of a period. However, a cycle can range anywhere

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A History of Sex

And the evolution of the human condition

For many people, sex is something of a mystery, an obsession, highly pleasurable but also highly regulated. Some say that sex is a part of our primal nature and akin to the essence of life itself in part because every second, millions of cells are being born within our bodies.

Sex is elemental to life without which we would not exist. We turn to sex in the desire to breed, sharing joys, relieving sorrows and despite all the different moral codes around the world, and all ways of relating over our history, sex is not well understood and often badly performed.

Sex is one of the most obvious features of our dualistic world

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Whistles and Cat Calls

What’s a girl to do?

There’s a story going around about the aspiring actress Shoshana Roberts who walked the streets of new York and got 108 cat calls over the 10 hours of her experiment. But who in their right mind is going to spend 10 hours a day walking the streets just to make the point that some guys have bad manners and she doesn’t know how to deal with that?

In contrast, the New York Post writer Doree Lewak who would you believe was brazen enough to walk by some building sites bra less in an otherwise fairly modest dress and she says that cat calls are flattering and

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The Art of Kissing

A process of deepening intimacy

A kiss is the act of pressing of one’s lips against another person or an object most often as a demonstration of acceptance and appreciation or affection, or as a greeting and an act of friendship. Yet the act of kissing varies across different cultures with many different uses and meanings.

While kisses are most often used to express sentiments of love, lust and passion, kisses facilitate deeper intimacy and sexual activity. But in other situations, a kiss is a ritual, formal or symbolic gesture indicating devotion, respect, or sacrament.

The English word kiss came from Old English cyssan (“to kiss”), in turn from coss (“a kiss”). It is widely thought that kissing is an

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The Marriage of Children

A crime against humanity

Marriage is a global institution and if we step back into history there was a natural pairing off mostly between young men and women as they reached a balance of physical and mental maturity that enabled them to live happily and raise a family.

It is probable that there has always been some deviant or criminal behaviour within tribal groups but more so in the field of conquest. But the majority of the world’s population who had achieved a sense of balance and purpose in life would instinctively know when the time for marriage was right and this time was defined as when the girl is capable of bearing children and caring for them.

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Hard Times

When economies fall, women sell their bodies for cash

The development of the modern economy began thousands of years ago which gave rise to slavery and prostitution as we came to know it. With the development of agriculture men developed unhealthy desires for the fruit of labour and the joy of pleasure without earning it themselves.

They rated neighbouring lands bringing it back strong men to do the physical work and women for sex. Over these thousands of years, little has changed only the methodology governing the acquisition and control of slaves for any purpose has modernised.

Traditionally in countries without social welfare, the poor have been disposed of or conscripted into another service as soldiers or comfort women. As

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A Caution to Girls

I Was About To Marry My Lover Till I Saw His Facebook Messages:

There are many charming young men seeking attractive girls for pleasure and sometimes to wed. This is a cautionary tale about dating a Muslim boy and how she saved herself ‘just in time’.

Anonymous says:

What I Saw, I’ll Never Be Able To Forget. I am an army brat who has led a very liberal and easy going life. Integrity and honesty were my first and foremost virtues. I belonged to no city because we were transferred every 3 years. Adaptability was my biggest asset.

He belonged to a typical conservative Muslim family living for years in a notorious town of west UP. The family was

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