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Sex Education

Essential knowledge for life

Human sexuality is an ongoing exploration as we are creative creatures, but sexuality is governed by ignorance, religions, politics, cultural and community beliefs. Sex pervades our lives at every level, it is widely used to sell products and services as well as to win influence or impose control in many spheres of life.

On one level, sex is just a simple act to cause impregnation and we are biologically programmed to do this, yet due to social controls, many are confused about relating and sex. Because so many misunderstand relationships, relationship failures, rape and other coercions are a huge social and criminal problem.

At a personal level knowing one’s body is vital and this knowledge is

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Sari Tradition

Without blouse – A kick back against colonialism

Whatever country men live in, the majority have a somewhat unhealthy appreciation of the female body because we live in a capitalist and patriarchal society where things are to be possessed. Women for the most part have been chattels in many countries, slaves and baby makers for the men who owned them.

India as a matriarchal civilisation was spared this tradition until midway through the British occupation when they decided that because women in England had no rights, Hindu women should also have no rights. With stroke of a pen they passed a law disinheriting women of their wealth and social status and telling men that they had all the power.

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Sex Education

One of the many failures of modern civilisation

For most of us, our parents lives were less than perfect. Like all children, at some point during those formative years, the opposite sex became attractive giving rise to sexual feelings without necessarily having any intellectual appreciation of what was happening.

The transition from childhood through adolescence can be a biochemical nightmare for a great many children. They have hormones flowing through their bodies and sometimes uncontrollable urges are so strong that they have to quickly find a private space to relieve themselves through masturbation or some other activity that relieves the pressure of that energy building up inside of them.

As our parents left us to navigate sexuality alone, most parents

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Dating Jana

My French hottie

When I was stationed in France, I met Jana after work one Friday, she and her workmates had come out looking for something different. They were a party of mostly women and livened up the bar. Myself and several of my mates started getting connected, we had dinner, danced and probably had a few too many drinks before Jana invited me back to her place.

The sex was great and she seemed to have no inhibitions, she seldom wore underwear and encouraged me to do the same. That was no biggie and actually I was more comfortable. We didn’t exactly date as such, I thought about her all the time and I often had a hard

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No Underwear

And should it be a problem?

Some people think that going without underwear is a taboo and an act of indecency, however it’s so easy to forget unless underwear it’s a feature of your outfit. Unless one’s skirt is particularly short and you happen to bend over in someone’s view or sit in view with your legs apart, no one is likely to notice and honestly its nice not to have panty lines and sometimes no lines in your skin at the end of the day.

Going braless in some societies can be more problematic if you have bigger boobs or wear revealing tops but society is moving on and going braless is more socially acceptable. My girlfriends thought I

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Observations on Dating

Boy meets girl

Colin here, you could say I began growing up in the mid-90s or at least that was when my interest in the fairer sex surfaced. And so began a five year stint of frequent masturbation as I tried to figure out how to get girls to open their legs.

Looking back perhaps one of my advantages was I was totally comfortable talking to girls but when it came to asking for a date or even just to hang out, I kinda lost my voice (not literally) but I totally lacked the confidence. School would be in class with girls, sometimes exchanging almost flirtatiously smiles and comments but not having the wherewithal soon follow up then of course

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Sex therapy

An all too common story labelled as love in decline

Benjamin was a brash dominating man who expected his wife of five years to be the perfect wife. That entailed keeping house and serving all his needs. He was not particularly unkind or inconsiderate, he was simply emulating his father’s behaviour toward his mother who suffered from chronic depression.

For the first year, Maryann was happy. Her girlfriends were envious because she had made a good catch, but behind the scenes the novelty was wearing off. It was not that she didn’t love Benjamin, it’s just that they were losing their spark and in his mind, it was her fault.

As her interest in sex wore off and life became

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Pausing the conversation

Defining relationships

I’ve been reading through other people’s stories and ideas about the changes in human relationships. The Christian moral perspective is that anything other than a unrelated male-female relationship is somehow a crime, an attitude that denies the fact that love can exist independently of this ideal. Disease is not discussed, but must be remembered.

So let’s look at some of these situations.

Incest between a father and daughter, or mother and son:

Within some branches of Islam, sex between fathers and daughters, older brothers and sisters is legal and encouraged as is marriage between cousins. But when these relationships produce children, genetic weaknesses and mutations occur giving rise to physical deformities and mental illnesses. This has also

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Casual Sex

One of humankind’s favourite though sometimes risky pastimes

In the Western world despite the imposing morality of church and state, we live in a world now where sex before marriage is completely normal.

In this modern era many people indulge their sexual fantasies through force, these are generally short-term and could be classified as casual that the casual rapist is a burden on civilisation.

It seems so odd that we live in a world where the girls have been trained to so they don’t yet amongst a group of men there is often some bragging about some form of casual sex or perhaps exotic sex that came unexpectedly.

Few people seem to be aware that sex is not just the

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The Menstrual Cycle

A rite of passage

The menstrual cycle occurs in women and periods can begin as young as age six or seven in populations affected by environmental poisoning. But more commonly they start any-time between the ages of nine to fifteen years.

Menstruation can start before or during the growth of breasts. Menstruation and ovulation results from of a very complex and delicately balanced chemical cycle that mature females go through every month or so.

What is a menstrual cycle? The menstrual cycle is how a woman’s body prepares for the possibility of pregnancy each month. A cycle usually averages about 28 days long and starts on the first day of a period. However, a cycle can range anywhere

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A History of Sex

And the evolution of the human condition

For many people, sex is something of a mystery, an obsession, highly pleasurable but also highly regulated. Some say that sex is a part of our primal nature and akin to the essence of life itself in part because every second, millions of cells are being born within our bodies.

Sex is elemental to life without which we would not exist. We turn to sex in the desire to breed, sharing joys, relieving sorrows and despite all the different moral codes around the world, and all ways of relating over our history, sex is not well understood and often badly performed.

Sex is one of the most obvious features of our dualistic world

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