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The Culture of Rape

An epidemic of ignorance

Rape has always existed throughout human evolution as a short term expression of fulfilling desires but as we take life to live, you could say it is part of our character?

In primitive tribal societies where there existed a healthy fear of inbreeding, young men would go out and capture themselves a wife from a neighbouring tribe. This was accepted as a way of maintaining genetic diversity and women were always traded to cement political or economic agreements between tribes and kingdoms.

In times of war it has been customary for conquering troops to rape the women in addition to the general looting and destruction but let’s not forget the millions of men and women

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Sari Tradition

Without blouse – A kick back against colonialism

Whatever country men live in, the majority have a somewhat unhealthy appreciation of the female body because we live in a capitalist and patriarchal society where things are to be possessed. Women for the most part have been chattels in many countries, slaves and baby makers for the men who owned them.

India as a matriarchal civilisation was spared this tradition until midway through the British occupation when they decided that because women in England had no rights, Hindu women should also have no rights. With stroke of a pen they passed a law disinheriting women of their wealth and social status and telling men that they had all the power.

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No Underwear

And should it be a problem?

Some people think that going without underwear is a taboo and an act of indecency, however it’s so easy to forget unless underwear it’s a feature of your outfit. Unless one’s skirt is particularly short and you happen to bend over in someone’s view or sit in view with your legs apart, no one is likely to notice and honestly its nice not to have panty lines and sometimes no lines in your skin at the end of the day.

Going braless in some societies can be more problematic if you have bigger boobs or wear revealing tops but society is moving on and going braless is more socially acceptable. My girlfriends thought I

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Observations on Dating

Boy meets girl

Colin here, you could say I began growing up in the mid-90s or at least that was when my interest in the fairer sex surfaced. And so began a five year stint of frequent masturbation as I tried to figure out how to get girls to open their legs.

Looking back perhaps one of my advantages was I was totally comfortable talking to girls but when it came to asking for a date or even just to hang out, I kinda lost my voice (not literally) but I totally lacked the confidence. School would be in class with girls, sometimes exchanging almost flirtatiously smiles and comments but not having the wherewithal soon follow up then of course

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Pausing the conversation

Defining relationships

I’ve been reading through other people’s stories and ideas about the changes in human relationships. The Christian moral perspective is that anything other than a unrelated male-female relationship is somehow a crime, an attitude that denies the fact that love can exist independently of this ideal. Disease is not discussed, but must be remembered.

So let’s look at some of these situations.

Incest between a father and daughter, or mother and son:

Within some branches of Islam, sex between fathers and daughters, older brothers and sisters is legal and encouraged as is marriage between cousins. But when these relationships produce children, genetic weaknesses and mutations occur giving rise to physical deformities and mental illnesses. This has also

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A History of Sex

And the evolution of the human condition

For many people, sex is something of a mystery, an obsession, highly pleasurable but also highly regulated. Some say that sex is a part of our primal nature and akin to the essence of life itself in part because every second, millions of cells are being born within our bodies.

Sex is elemental to life without which we would not exist. We turn to sex in the desire to breed, sharing joys, relieving sorrows and despite all the different moral codes around the world, and all ways of relating over our history, sex is not well understood and often badly performed.

Sex is one of the most obvious features of our dualistic world

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A Caution to Girls

I Was About To Marry My Lover Till I Saw His Facebook Messages:

There are many charming young men seeking attractive girls for pleasure and sometimes to wed. This is a cautionary tale about dating a Muslim boy and how she saved herself ‘just in time’.

Anonymous says:

What I Saw, I’ll Never Be Able To Forget. I am an army brat who has led a very liberal and easy going life. Integrity and honesty were my first and foremost virtues. I belonged to no city because we were transferred every 3 years. Adaptability was my biggest asset.

He belonged to a typical conservative Muslim family living for years in a notorious town of west UP. The family was

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Osho on Sex Ed for Kids

Tell it the way it is

Periodically in the media this week, discussions about sex education for children re-emerge. Those who consider themselves enlightened want to tell kids the facts of life as they really are while the moral opposition wants kids to remain forever in ignorance until that time comes when they fumble in the dark and are left suffering various forms of anxiety.

Statistics, these prove that children who are well educated about sex are more likely to put off sex until they are older and practice safe sex, they are also much less likely to get pregnant so it seems really strange that the moralists want to raise their kids in ignorance and expose them to unwanted

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Sexual harassment

Work and life distractions

It seems fair state that modern societies have degenerated into sexualised soups. All the clear boundaries that used to exist with the use of standardised dress codes and morality have been stripped away and the world is totally confused.

We live in an age of ever shifting morals and gender roles that causes so much confusion. This is not about men harassing woman or a woman harassing men, it’s a combination of both and it involves a lot of confusing social behaviours.

For instance the man who is in touch with life and successful is very attractive to the opposite sex as well as some of the same sex. People will be drawn to him,

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