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Whistles and Cat Calls

What’s a girl to do?

There’s a story going around about the aspiring actress Shoshana Roberts who walked the streets of new York and got 108 cat calls over the 10 hours of her experiment. But who in their right mind is going to spend 10 hours a day walking the streets just to make the point that some guys have bad manners and she doesn’t know how to deal with that.

In contrast, the New York Post writer Doree Lewak who would you believe was brazen enough to walk by some building sites bra less in an otherwise fairly modest dress and she says that cat calls are flattering and women

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The Art of Kissing

A process of deepening intimacy

A kiss is the act of pressing of one’s lips against another person or an object most often as a demonstration of acceptance and appreciation or affection, or as a greeting and an act of friendship. Yet the act of kissing varies across different cultures with many different uses and meanings.

While kisses are most often used to express sentiments of love, lust and passion, kisses facilitate deeper intimacy and sexual activity. But in other situations, a kiss is a ritual, formal or symbolic gesture indicating devotion, respect, or sacrament.

The English word kiss came from Old English cyssan (“to kiss”), in turn from coss (“a kiss”). It is widely thought that kissing is an

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A Caution to Girls

I Was About To Marry My Lover Till I Saw His Facebook Messages:

There are many charming young men seeking attractive girls for pleasure and sometimes to wed. This is a cautionary tale about dating a Muslim boy and how she saved herself ‘just in time’.

Anonymous says:

What I Saw, I’ll Never Be Able To Forget. I am an army brat who has led a very liberal and easy going life. Integrity and honesty were my first and foremost virtues. I belonged to no city because we were transferred every 3 years. Adaptability was my biggest asset.

He belonged to a typical conservative Muslim family living for years in a notorious town of west UP. The family was

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Rough Around the Edges

Dealing with men and trying to find one that’ll do

Hi there, I’m sending you some of my insights and experiences because I enjoyed some of your posts and your readers might learn something. Anyhow, I guess I’m pretty much just an average girl from Lancashire, my parents tried to teach me manners and I gotta admit that they come in handy sometimes.

I’ve got no great expectations in life and like most people, I want to have fun and maybe a family one day. My sex life began when I was 13, I went to a party, the boys got me drunk and I ended up having sex with two of them. It wasn’t all that nice, but it

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Tales of infidelity

The experience and feedback

Hi there, I won’t tell you my name but I’ve been married for five years and having decided to put off having kids until after I turned 30 we’d both been working hard to build our dream home. We hadn’t gone too far overboard in terms of debt but I’m sure this is one of the major factors that’s been causing strife in our relationship.

In those first few years of courtship and marriage we both had good paying jobs and a great deal of confidence, so we had sex often and everywhere, but it seemed like that was all too good to last because of been reduced to a part-time job and although Simon is

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Nature of Marriage

And relationships

If we look back through history, far back we have the hunter-gatherer tribes where men and women were more equal than the ideal many of us seek today. With the development of agriculture and larger societies, women became more subservient through into the present day where women are fighting for equity in many arenas of life where it’s permitted.

Is There A Perfect Relationship

In many countries we have the idealised “love” relationship, however this is very unstable as we see by the rising divorce rate. There are also the arranged marriages which are often more successful than a love relationship. However throughout history, our relationships and sexuality have been controlled, and adapted by the economic and political

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Evelyn

A different kind of relationship

I’m one of those people who was fed up with the ‘human race’ and the world of politically correct nonsense. Then I got a lucky break by winning the lottery which gave me enough that I never had to work again.

I’d married and divorced some years earlier and bought a modest but very attractive property on the edge of town. I isolated myself to some degree and in social service I took up growing vegetables some of which going to a local charity hospital and some to a cooperative through which I keep a little contact with the wider but more alternative community.

And been there for almost 6 years when Evelyn bought a

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Sex Before Kissing

A new and dangerous social paradigm

Nice kiss by couplenotes/Tumblr

While sex without kissing for the most part throughout human history has been the prerogative of the soldier/rapist who were typically all men and sex workers who are typically women, sex without kissing was once very rare. A kiss is coming together in intimacy in many forms, it’s a declaration of acceptance, trust and affection, and often times used to convey a progression towards deeper intimacy.

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Relationship Q & A

Anal Sex – Shall I or Shan’t I?

Leakage can be embarrassing

Hi Dianna, I’ve recently started allowing my boyfriend have anal sex with me and one once he actually gets inside me, after the initial discomfort while is not exactly unpleasant, it’s not exactly great either so what’s the big deal and should I continue?

Thanks for writing Veronica, for some people anal sex is a really big thing and for others it’s not. You need plenty of lube and in terms of penetration, it’s somehow contrary to nature and takes a little practice to relax those sphincter muscles and sometimes the urge to push out.

For most women, this form of sex is something they ‘allow’ rather

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Sex Talk

A conversation recorded

My sister Ciara and her friend Sandy were a little bored as they sat watching the rain running down the windows. I’d just stacked fire and I think they’d forgotten I was still there doing some homework, but it was hard not to hear what they were saying and this is some of their conversation.

Sandy: what is it about men Ciara? You know I quite like Alfie, in many ways he’s really nice and I feel strongly attracted to him but he’s really useless at sex.

Ciara: unfortunately I kinda know what you mean because most of the boys I’ve been with just please themselves and sometimes I just can’t be bothered having sex because I’m

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