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Dating and Friendship

An essential partnership

While the social norms in some countries prohibit dating and the allowing of young individuals of the opposite sex to spend time together until their marriage is arranged, in most countries young people grow up with the idea and the expectation of finding true love match.

Like all human relationships there are a great many possibilities but perhaps one of the most insidious is the pressure placed on young people to date members of the opposite sex or even the same gender within their particular social group. This expectation and pressure that is generated creates anxiety and suffering in part because there is no clear discussion and in fact, our socialisation process almost prohibits this discussion.

Conversely

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India's Dowry Problem

And the origins of India’s dowry system

The modern use of the word word ‘dowry’ refers to the durable goods, cash, real or movable property, a transfer of parental property, gifts or money given at the marriage of a daughter. The older more traditional meaning and use was that this was a gift to the bride as her exclusive property.

In India due to British manipulation of Hindu Law, it became the price paid by the bride’s family to the bridegroom, his parents and even relatives as a condition of the marriage. It is prevalent in many countries but in India it is more obvious and causes great social harm.

The current British devised dowry system

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Observations on Dating

Boy meets girl

Colin here, you could say I began growing up in the mid-90s or at least that was when my interest in the fairer sex surfaced. And so began a five year stint of frequent masturbation as I tried to figure out how to get girls to open their legs.

Looking back perhaps one of my advantages was I was totally comfortable talking to girls but when it came to asking for a date or even just to hang out, I kinda lost my voice (not literally) but I totally lacked the confidence. School would be in class with girls, sometimes exchanging almost flirtatiously smiles and comments but not having the wherewithal soon follow up then of course

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A Caution to Girls

I Was About To Marry My Lover Till I Saw His Facebook Messages:

There are many charming young men seeking attractive girls for pleasure and sometimes to wed. This is a cautionary tale about dating a Muslim boy and how she saved herself ‘just in time’.

Anonymous says:

What I Saw, I’ll Never Be Able To Forget. I am an army brat who has led a very liberal and easy going life. Integrity and honesty were my first and foremost virtues. I belonged to no city because we were transferred every 3 years. Adaptability was my biggest asset.

He belonged to a typical conservative Muslim family living for years in a notorious town of west UP. The family was

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Marriage

An institution we can’t disparage

Marriage is a solution that provides some stability for our children and while it’s not perfect because we don’t yet know perfection, it’s what we’ve got and have to work with. There are many variations on marriage as there are variations in beliefs and ideas. For some monogamy works yet some can’t commit. For others polygamy, polyandry or some type of open relationship works.

While its primarily an arrangement for breeding, it’s also become a social institution and in western society, one of the best ways to survive economically. Here you’ll find some discussions on marriage and its aspects.

Our belief about being in a romantic relationship often leads us into intimate relationships that aren’t

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