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India's Dowry Problem

And the origins of India’s dowry system

The word ‘dowry’ refers to the durable goods, cash, and real or movable property that the bride’s family gives to the bridegroom, his parents, or his relatives as a condition of the marriage. It is prevalent in many countries, not only India but in India it is more obvious and causes great social harm.

The dowry system puts great financial burden on the bride’s family and often leads to crimes against women ranging from emotional abuse, injury and sometimes death. The payment of dowry is clearly unjust and is prohibited under Indian law.

The dowry system reflects and perpetuates man’s superiority over women making a mockery of the very idea

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Some Thoughts on Sex

Personal experiences beyond the social norm

Hi Diana, I read with interest some of the sharings by other woman who seemed to be liberally minded about sexuality and sharing their bodies so I thought I’d offer my two cents worth. I’m a Sydney girl aged 18 at the time when I moved out of home and into a flat with three blokes. My initial concern was that they’d try and make me as the only girl in the house do all the domestic chores but fortunately that didn’t happen.

At the time I only saw myself as being average in terms of attractiveness and in hindsight I’m not exactly proud to admit that I did my share of leading boys

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The Meditator in Love

Meditation is against false love

“If you can move into love making totally, the ego disappears because at the highest peak, at the highest climax of lovemaking, you are pure energy” – Osho (artist unknown)

Love is a many splendid thing and so misunderstood. At a base level love is seen or experienced as an attachment, at it’s highest it’s an inseparability with the universe. Due to karma, the consequences resulting in our situation and perception, everyone has a different understanding of love.

The fact that we can’t agree, that we so oft feel disconnected cannot be resolved intellectually, it is only through meditation, the art of yoga that provides an inner connection to life

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Whistles and Cat Calls

What’s a girl to do?

There’s a story going around about the aspiring actress Shoshana Roberts who walked the streets of new York and got 108 cat calls over the 10 hours of her experiment. But who in their right mind is going to spend 10 hours a day walking the streets just to make the point that some guys have bad manners and she doesn’t know how to deal with that?

In contrast, the New York Post writer Doree Lewak who would you believe was brazen enough to walk by some building sites bra less in an otherwise fairly modest dress and she says that cat calls are flattering and

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The Art of Kissing

A process of deepening intimacy

A kiss is the act of pressing of one’s lips against another person or an object most often as a demonstration of acceptance and appreciation or affection, or as a greeting and an act of friendship. Yet the act of kissing varies across different cultures with many different uses and meanings.

While kisses are most often used to express sentiments of love, lust and passion, kisses facilitate deeper intimacy and sexual activity. But in other situations, a kiss is a ritual, formal or symbolic gesture indicating devotion, respect, or sacrament.

The English word kiss came from Old English cyssan (“to kiss”), in turn from coss (“a kiss”). It is widely thought that kissing is an

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A Caution to Girls

I Was About To Marry My Lover Till I Saw His Facebook Messages:

There are many charming young men seeking attractive girls for pleasure and sometimes to wed. This is a cautionary tale about dating a Muslim boy and how she saved herself ‘just in time’.

Anonymous says:

What I Saw, I’ll Never Be Able To Forget. I am an army brat who has led a very liberal and easy going life. Integrity and honesty were my first and foremost virtues. I belonged to no city because we were transferred every 3 years. Adaptability was my biggest asset.

He belonged to a typical conservative Muslim family living for years in a notorious town of west UP. The family was

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Sponges

Feminine Hygiene

When looked after carefully, natural sponges are a safe and clean alternative to tampons. But unlike tampons, they can be reused, may last for years and of course natural sea sponges are better than synthetic sponges. Do not use coloured sponges as the chemicals in the dye may have an unpleasant or uncomfortable reaction.

In term of use and practicality, natural sea sponges can be trimmed to size and absorb more than synthetic ones but as they are soft, they will conform to the shape of your vaginal cavity. If a sponge is too big, it will be difficult to insert and won’t absorb any more than a smaller one. If a sponge is too small, it may

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Rough Around the Edges

Dealing with men and trying to find one that’ll do

Hi there, I’m sending you some of my insights and experiences because I enjoyed some of your posts and your readers might learn something. Anyhow, I guess I’m pretty much just an average girl from Lancashire, my parents tried to teach me manners and I gotta admit that they come in handy sometimes.

I’ve got no great expectations in life and like most people, I want to have fun and maybe a family one day. My sex life began when I was 13, I went to a party, the boys got me drunk and I ended up having sex with two of them. It wasn’t all that nice, but it

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Tales of infidelity

The experience and feedback

Anon writes: I won’t tell you my name but I’ve been married for five years and having decided to put off having kids until after I turned 30, we’d been working hard to build our dream home. We hadn’t gone too far overboard in terms of debt, but I’m sure this was one of the major factors upsetting our relationship.

In those first few years of courtship and marriage we both had good paying jobs and a great deal of confidence, so we had sex often and everywhere. But in some-ways it seemed too good to last because my work

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Nature of Marriage

And relationships

If we look back through history, far back we have the hunter-gatherer tribes where men and women were more equal than the ideal many of us seek today. With the development of agriculture and larger societies, women became more subservient through into the present day where women are fighting for equity in many arenas of life where it’s permitted.

Is There A Perfect Relationship

In many countries we have the idealised “love” relationship, however this is very unstable as we see by the rising divorce rate. There are also the arranged marriages which are often more successful than a love relationship. However throughout history, our relationships and sexuality have been controlled, and adapted by the economic and political

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