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Dating and Friendship

An essential partnership

While the social norms in some countries prohibit dating and the allowing of young individuals of the opposite sex to spend time together until their marriage is arranged, in most countries young people grow up with the idea and the expectation of finding true love match.

Like all human relationships there are a great many possibilities but perhaps one of the most insidious is the pressure placed on young people to date members of the opposite sex or even the same gender within their particular social group. This expectation and pressure that is generated creates anxiety and suffering in part because there is no clear discussion and in fact, our socialisation process almost prohibits this discussion.

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Reality Check

In search of happiness

We call ourselves human beings yet we seem to spend most of our lives doing stuff and then wondering why we’re not happy. To a certain extent we are conned, someone has pulled the wool and we believe that worldly achievement will make us happy. Finding a perfect man to be your anchor or a perfect woman to ease your pains and have your children will make you happy.

All the worldly successes we have produce a temporary happiness and then it’s back to the treadmill to earn more, the social meeting place to hook up or just someone’s sorrows then wonder how the hell you ended up with a particular person next morning.

It

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India's Dowry Problem

And the origins of India’s dowry system

The modern use of the word word ‘dowry’ refers to the durable goods, cash, real or movable property, a transfer of parental property, gifts or money given at the marriage of a daughter. The older more traditional meaning and use was that this was a gift to the bride as her exclusive property.

In India due to British manipulation of Hindu Law, it became the price paid by the bride’s family to the bridegroom, his parents and even relatives as a condition of the marriage. It is prevalent in many countries but in India it is more obvious and causes great social harm.

The current British devised dowry system

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Dating Jana

My French hottie

When I was stationed in France, I met Jana after work one Friday, she and her workmates had come out looking for something different. They were a party of mostly women and livened up the bar. Myself and several of my mates started getting connected, we had dinner, danced and probably had a few too many drinks before Jana invited me back to her place.

The sex was great and she seemed to have no inhibitions, she seldom wore underwear and encouraged me to do the same. That was no biggie and actually I was more comfortable. We didn’t exactly date as such, I thought about her all the time and I often had a hard

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Observations on Dating

Boy meets girl

Colin here, you could say I began growing up in the mid-90s or at least that was when my interest in the fairer sex surfaced. And so began a five year stint of frequent masturbation as I tried to figure out how to get girls to open their legs.

Looking back perhaps one of my advantages was I was totally comfortable talking to girls but when it came to asking for a date or even just to hang out, I kinda lost my voice (not literally) but I totally lacked the confidence. School would be in class with girls, sometimes exchanging almost flirtatiously smiles and comments but not having the wherewithal soon follow up then of course

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Some Thoughts on Sex

Personal experiences beyond the social norm

Hi Diana, I read with interest some of the sharings by other woman who seemed to be liberally minded about sexuality and sharing their bodies so I thought I’d offer my two cents worth. I’m a Sydney girl aged 18 at the time when I moved out of home and into a flat with three blokes. My initial concern was that they’d try and make me as the only girl in the house do all the domestic chores but fortunately that didn’t happen.

At the time I only saw myself as being average in terms of attractiveness and in hindsight I’m not exactly proud to admit that I did my share of leading boys

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The Importance of Sex

In today’s insane world

When we consider relationships, affairs, one-night stands, emergency sex and marriages, what is the right way to go? All these words mean more or less the same, a type of emotional link between two persons. The differences lie in the time the two spend together, how they relate in what they do together and in the details that give a distinct personality to their relationship.

In most cases, the thing that brings two persons together is physical attraction, a chemistry which is sooner or later followed by the complex dance of passion. Most lasting relationships are built around qualities that matter in the

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The Meditator in Love

Meditation is against false love

“If you can move into love making totally, the ego disappears because at the highest peak, at the highest climax of lovemaking, you are pure energy” – Osho (artist unknown)

Love is a many splendid thing and so misunderstood. At a base level love is seen or experienced as an attachment, at it’s highest it’s an inseparability with the universe. Due to karma, the consequences resulting in our situation and perception, everyone has a different understanding of love.

The fact that we can’t agree, that we so oft feel disconnected cannot be resolved intellectually, it is only through meditation, the art of yoga that provides an inner connection to life

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Whistles and Cat Calls

What’s a girl to do?

There’s a story going around about the aspiring actress Shoshana Roberts who walked the streets of new York and got 108 cat calls over the 10 hours of her experiment. But who in their right mind is going to spend 10 hours a day walking the streets just to make the point that some guys have bad manners and she doesn’t know how to deal with that?

In contrast, the New York Post writer Doree Lewak who would you believe was brazen enough to walk by some building sites bra less in an otherwise fairly modest dress and she says that cat calls are flattering and

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The Art of Kissing

A process of deepening intimacy

A kiss is the act of pressing of one’s lips against another person or an object most often as a demonstration of acceptance and appreciation or affection, or as a greeting and an act of friendship. Yet the act of kissing varies across different cultures with many different uses and meanings.

While kisses are most often used to express sentiments of love, lust and passion, kisses facilitate deeper intimacy and sexual activity. But in other situations, a kiss is a ritual, formal or symbolic gesture indicating devotion, respect, or sacrament.

The English word kiss came from Old English cyssan (“to kiss”), in turn from coss (“a kiss”). It is widely thought that kissing is an

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