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India's Dowry Problem

And the origins of India’s dowry system

The word ‘dowry’ refers to the durable goods, cash, and real or movable property that the bride’s family gives to the bridegroom, his parents, or his relatives as a condition of the marriage. It is prevalent in many countries, not only India but in India it is more obvious and causes great social harm.

The dowry system puts great financial burden on the bride’s family and often leads to crimes against women ranging from emotional abuse, injury and sometimes death. The payment of dowry is clearly unjust and is prohibited under Indian law.

The dowry system reflects and perpetuates man’s superiority over women making a mockery of the very idea

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Sex Education

One of the many failures of modern civilisation

For most of us, our parents lives were less than perfect. Like all children, at some point during those formative years, the opposite sex became attractive giving rise to sexual feelings without necessarily having any intellectual appreciation of what was happening.

The transition from childhood through adolescence can be a biochemical nightmare for a great many children. They have hormones flowing through their bodies and sometimes uncontrollable urges are so strong that they have to quickly find a private space to relieve themselves through masturbation or some other activity that relieves the pressure of that energy building up inside of them.

As our parents left us to navigate sexuality alone, most parents

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Eroticism

A celebration of life

One of the most commonly shared views of what constitutes erotic is the female body and eroticism could well be defined as an interest or even an obsession with what people perceive as being erotic.

To break this down further, the erotic generates a smile and stimulates desires that may not necessarily be sexual. Erotica consists of the wide range of subject material, and eroticism the passion that people have to appreciate and seek out what they perceive as being erotic.

When we look at life, human sexuality is an essential part of life and the act of sexual intercourse between consenting persons is one of the greatest joys in life. But when we bring

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Sex therapy

An all too common story labelled as love in decline

Benjamin was a brash dominating man who expected his wife of five years to be the perfect wife. That entailed keeping house and serving all his needs. He was not particularly unkind or inconsiderate, he was simply emulating his father’s behaviour toward his mother who suffered from chronic depression.

For the first year, Maryann was happy. Her girlfriends were envious because she had made a good catch, but behind the scenes the novelty was wearing off. It was not that she didn’t love Benjamin, it’s just that they were losing their spark and in his mind, it was her fault.

As her interest in sex wore off and life became

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The Origins of Marriage

How the institution came to be and what is best?

Published 29 Dec 2015 – updated Sept 12 2018

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In Europe before 1100 A.D. people wanting to join together for fun, to raise a family and what might be seen as marriage just got on with it. But with the growth of European civilisation there was a problem surrounding inheritance and being absolutely sure the ‘right’ child was being left the family fortune, because in those days the oldest child or the oldest boy child inherited the family assets.

To resolve this issue, the Catholic church came up with the idea of a church sanctified marriage which coincidently helped to fill their coffers. They also made

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Human Sexuality

A major confusion

Published on: 29 Dec 2015 updated August 20, 2018

There is about as much consensus in society about sexuality as there is about spirituality, and more sex happens in peoples minds than their genitals.

Confusion arises because those who assume moral leadership say one thing and do another. Couple this with the ongoing deconstruction of our societies by social and economic forces.

Sigmund Freud described sexuality as the driver of our psychology and a motivator for all our behaviour which remains relevant today.

But the primary drive to have sex comes from a base biological desire to pass on our genes and perpetuate our species. The desire to breed is an instinctive and powerful force

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The Disease Spreads

The calls to accept and normalise paedophilia

Before getting into this argument, we must remember that paedophilia has been going on for centuries in some form or other. In many cultures girls became married soon after their menstrual cycle commenced but there is very little record or evidence to support any ideas that what we refer to as paedophilia today existed before the rise of the Greek and Roman empires. The civilised world that stretched from the Mediterranean, North Africa, South and Southeast Asia are thought to have been much better organised and responsible.

Under the Greeks and Romans who used slaves to create their empires, a new kind of indolence and leisure developed along with a disregard for life

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Pausing the conversation

Defining relationships

I’ve been reading through other people’s stories and ideas about the changes in human relationships. The Christian moral perspective is that anything other than a unrelated male-female relationship is somehow a crime, an attitude that denies the fact that love can exist independently of this ideal. Disease is not discussed, but must be remembered.

So let’s look at some of these situations.

Incest between a father and daughter, or mother and son:

Within some branches of Islam, sex between fathers and daughters, older brothers and sisters is legal and encouraged as is marriage between cousins. But when these relationships produce children, genetic weaknesses and mutations occur giving rise to physical deformities and mental illnesses. This has also

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Russia's at Fault

Our tribal culture

Over the years we have seen a litany of accusations, Saddam Hussein had his weapons of mass destruction and so many other leaders have previously and since fallen foul of people’s opinions who felt justified in their beliefs enough to go to war and execute people.

This is nothing new, this has being going on for centuries. It begins really with people realising they don’t know and feeling inferior beside those who pretend to know. The thing about being human is that we live on this little planet in some out the way corner of our vast universe and we think we are so goddamn important that we really know stuff of importance. But really, we have

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The New Face of Sexism

The perverse logic that women are always right

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After an incident on June 6, 2016 a man was later convicted (march 2018) in Belgium of sexism in a public place for the first time sparking fresh debate about sexism and a call for similar new laws in other countries.

Before jumping in, lets remember that sexism or gender discrimination is a prejudice or discrimination based on a person’s sex or gender but it mostly pertains to control, contempt, negativity or hostility towards women and girls. According to Belgium law, sexism is defined as “every gesture or deed” that is “clearly meant to express contempt of a person based on sex,” or considers a person inferior based on

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