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The Prospect of Marriage

A human institution

The joy of marriage

Marriage is a universal human relationship and a social institution that serves the couple and/or society and yet it so often fails so we ask; Does love matter? Do you want to get married? Should you get married? Does your family want you to? Is marriage necessary? Will marriage make a better life?

Marriage is a commitment generally taken for life, yet it has a very high rate of failure and remarriage is a common practice.

For Marriage to work, there must be:

love – is key and the most important aspect. desire – if you don’t’ have desire for the other, why bother? appreciation – if you cannot appreciate or admire

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Demeaning Women

Past time for change

The place of women in Catholicism and Islam has always been very explicit, that is to be mothers and doormats for the men, to be hidden out of sight and if they dare to stray from this path, they are punished. In light of our supposed civilisation, it’s a source of shame that we still give special privileges to these religious groups and continue to demean women.

We are not sure when patriarchy began but it was probably one day when some man was in a bad mood, maybe he stubbed his toe, maybe he was sad and depressed for some reason and blamed his mother for bringing him into the world. There no way

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A Caution to Girls

I Was About To Marry My Lover Till I Saw His Facebook Messages:

There are many charming young men seeking attractive girls for pleasure and sometimes to wed. This is a cautionary tale about dating a Muslim boy and how she saved herself ‘just in time’.

Anonymous says:

What I Saw, I’ll Never Be Able To Forget. I am an army brat who has led a very liberal and easy going life. Integrity and honesty were my first and foremost virtues. I belonged to no city because we were transferred every 3 years. Adaptability was my biggest asset.

He belonged to a typical conservative Muslim family living for years in a notorious town of west UP. The family was

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Sex as a Career?

Women have been counselled to become sex workers

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The concept of a woman offering sex for money and other favours is generally thought of as the world’s oldest profession and as far as we know, there has never been a time in human history where this has not occurred.

Today in many countries despite the cries of some moralists, what many regard as prostitution has been legalised in many countries. Yet when we look at many marriages, they are often little more than agreements validating sex for money.

Yet moralists around the world even though they may be prostituting themselves condemn the activity of the women who make themselves available to men, but

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Modest is Not Hottest

Ideas about growing up, conformity and fashion for girls

Eye candy

Growing up in our materialistic world is a challenge and many the many self esteem issues so many suffer from stem back to those moments of comparison with others, in particular the unrealistic magazine and makeup images of what you should look like.

The fashion industry promotes the body beautiful with shorter skirts, lower necklines, bigger busts, thinner legs, perfected eyebrows, and a pencil thin waistline. Girls are being constantly told exactly how to look and how to be hot, to be desired, and sexy mostly by males.

Our world is very elitist and this is mostly to do with basic survival needs, like more money and

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Rough Around the Edges

Dealing with men and trying to find one that’ll do

Hi there, I’m sending you some of my insights and experiences because I enjoyed some of your posts and your readers might learn something. Anyhow, I guess I’m pretty much just an average girl from Lancashire, my parents tried to teach me manners and I gotta admit that they come in handy sometimes.

I’ve got no great expectations in life and like most people, I want to have fun and maybe a family one day. My sex life began when I was 13, I went to a party, the boys got me drunk and I ended up having sex with two of them. It wasn’t all that nice, but it

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Sex Therapy

Humour

Two women had been having a friendly lunch when the subject turned to sex. “You know, John and I have been having some sexual problems”, Linda told her friend. “That’s amazing!” Mary replied, “So have Tom and I.”

“We’re thinking of going to a sex therapist”, said Linda.

“Oh, we could never do that! We’d be too embarrassed!” responded Mary. “But after you go, will you please tell me how it went?”

Several weeks passed, and the two friends met for lunch again.

“So how did the sex therapy work out, Linda?” Mary asked.

“Things couldn’t be better,” Linda exclaimed. “We began with a physical exam, and afterwards the doctor said he was certain he could help us. He

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An Escape From Hell

The Story of a A Muslim Wife

Hello, my name is Selena and because so many people have asked what my life was like before I escaped this is the story I would have told them. I was born into a respectable Muslim family but I was married off to Mustapha when I was only 12 years old. His first wife Aisha who was 17 at the time disliked me because when I got married my husband wanted to have sex with me all the time. But after submitting to her authority and my husband lost interest in me and we slowly became friends.

We shared dreams of a Western lifestyle free of the chains that bound us to our

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Relationships and Fidelity

My husband is at work but his brother is hitting on me

Dear Dianna, my name is Roxanne from California, USA. I’ve been married to Scott for two years and I’m just about to turn 23. To make ends meet he works really long hours but so far I’ve only been able to get some casual part-time work which is fine because we’re doing okay.

But it’s almost 2 months ago now that Scott’s brother Brett came to stay with us after losing his job. His situation was desperate enough that is only choices were to stay with us or live on the streets. Initially Scott was indifferent to him but after a word from his mother, he finally invited

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Modern Slavery and Sex Trafficking

An age old problem facing humanity

While there are some women who are kept chained, such scenes as this are fetish practices after which all participants returned to their daily life

It seems probable that slavery extends back to the very first humans with those who were not perhaps so bright were told by others what to do. In other words or another way of expressing this is: submitting to someone else’s will is an optional survival strategy.

With the increase in the human population, at different periods of time and history which we know from old accounts that slaves in essence became the workers and the architects became the middle-class. In Roman society almost everyone had slaves including

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