Ideas about growing up, conformity and fashion for girls
Growing up in our materialistic world is a challenge and many the many self esteem issues so many suffer from stem back to those moments of comparison with others, in particular the unrealistic magazine and makeup images of what you should look like.
The fashion industry promotes the body beautiful with shorter skirts, lower necklines, bigger busts, thinner legs, perfected eyebrows, and a pencil thin waistline. Girls are being constantly told exactly how to look and how to be hot, to be desired, and sexy mostly by males.
Our world is very elitist and this is mostly to do with basic survival needs, like more money and social power that one can have a more comfortable life and privilege even though that often entails privilege at other people's expense.
One must also remember that the world is dominated by men with severe psychiatric problems of which the worst is a desire for power and control over others. This translates into misogyny and a fear they can relieve by controlling the lives of women who they desire and lust after. But there are many women afflicted by this disease as well.
Some countries avoid these problems by having a national dress like the sari in India, but increasingly around the world national dress is giving way to modern fashion and the sexualisation of woman's bodies. There is nothing wrong with being naked in an ultimate sense, but it's not just fashionable so countries have made rules against that. Instead girls are supposed to wear little and look sexy.
In terms of social success, women who have average good looks and above have no real problem fitting in to the plastic society, they can wear the skimpiest clothes and appear as a fashion statement. While this can sometimes guarantee a place in society it's actually more important to have brains and to be able to hold a rational conversation rather than echo the Kardashians.
So in particular for girls growing up today, the world is screaming in their ears to look fashionable, sexy and adopt the masculine competitive attitude in part as beauty on the inside doesn't get you free drinks which often turns nice girls into unpleasant girls sometimes referred to as bitches.
We'll grow up under the illusion that men and women are equal but this is far from true. In many countries this is really true in the courtroom although in Islamic countries the testimony of four women are equivalent to the testimony of one man - totally biased.
2000 years of morality have done little to alleviate the human condition as misogynistic ideas are well entrenched so while it was once taboo for girls to have premarital sex it's become fashionable to do so. There's absolutely nothing wrong with sex before, during or after marriage, it's a personal choice. But fashion and peer pressure coerced many young people into having sex before they feel ready.
Finding the balance
The patriarchal element within society likes girls to dress as eye candy and there is good reason for this besides base carnal nature. The human body is an attractive element within nature alongside flowers, trees and forests. So there is no reason to keep the body completely hidden as many Muslims do.
Personal dress codes and awareness of fashion are very personal and worth experimenting with. One of the biggest obstacles many girls have to overcome is the moral view that the human body is somehow shameful and the perverted view that breasts are somehow sexual objects.
The human body is one of the miracles of nature we could also say miracles of creation and is not for us to judge. One must remember that self judgement is the original sin because it separates us from others and through the extension of judgement, we are divided from each other which is why the world is in such conflict today.
When we think about fashion sense and look at women on the street, those with nice legs must often wear short skirts whereas whereas those who have a nice bust tend to wear lower tops and those who have a pretty face all dress and use make up to accentuate their best features.
The glamour images portrayed in the media are mostly artificial, high heels, liposuction or fat injections, breast enhancement, Botox, hair extensions and other modifications which can be extreme and damaging to one's health.
Because girls are traditionally programmed or groomed for marriage, the idea the girl is just going to finish school, work for a few years and then settle down and raise a family has passed. This one is born with a family fortune behind them, it takes at least two incomes to create a pleasant lifestyle stop so girls need to be brainy and that is more important than good looks and fashion sense.
If you have the brains and communication skills, it doesn't matter what you look like but if you only have good social skills, appearance may be a ticket to a better life. For girls growing up in the USA and the more Americanised countries, the fashion is all about sexualisation which is a whole other story you can read about here and remember, modesty is okay, it's about being self contained and responsible.