The gentleness of touch
Before getting into this touchy subject, please remember that we experience the world through our senses and our entire perception of life depends on our sense perception. In other words, everything we see, hear, touch or taste is conveyed through our senses to our minds for interpretation and sensual massage increases our ability to perceive.
Our senses are those of vision, touch, hearing, taste and smell. Just think, we exercise our bodies so that they perform more efficiently. We do mental exercises to keep our minds sharp and alert so why not sensual massage to enhance sensitivity?
Sensual massage is generally a soft massage over the entirety of the body that stimulates all the sense receptors in the body so that the recipient becomes more sensitive to their environment - simple?
In many corners of society the word massage conjures up ideas of sex, but when anyone talks about sensual massage, most listeners associate that with some form of deviant sexual pleasure. This is an example of ignorance and plain stupidity because all of life is a sensual experience whereas in truth it is key to life.
Not only is there no massage that is not sensual, there can be no relationship to the outside world without sensuality. Unfortunately, ignorance and stupidity rule the world but almost everyone knows the value of massage. It soothes, heals and most of all, it relaxes.
So sensual massage is firstly about relaxation and secondly it stimulates sensory perception. One of the problems we have is that people are so stressed out and frustrated, one of the first things that happens when they relax is they start fantasising about sex. There is nothing wrong with that providing that it does not interfere with the purpose of the massage. In fact between 30% and 60% of all massage clients will experience some sexual arousal when having a nonsexual massage, but this is never a problem unless they attempt to act on it.
While 'sensual massage' as a public service is mostly found in brothels, all massage by it's very nature is sensual. Of course many are still attached to outdated Victorian ethics which tell us that bodily pleasure is bad and brothels and sexual services have always been a part of civilisation. But today stigma associated with pleasure is diminishing as we get better educated and begin to mature.
As the line between massage and sex is blurred for many because ignorance reigns, and morality varies between different segments of society and in different countries. Suspend your judgement, think for a moment, how sensual this life is. If we were not sensual in our nature, we would have no contact with the world, we would not be able to feel, see, taste or smell. We feel the world and our environment by using our senses and the sensuality of massage heals and sharpens those senses and opens our inner senses that we may connect with the divine.
Due to the wrong understanding of sensual massage, it presents an ethical dilemma for many therapists. However sensual massage is becoming more widely available as a therapeutic treatment that is far removed from the 'rub and tug' association with the seedy massage parlours that are mostly frequented by lonely and frustrated souls who rarely ever get their real needs met.
For an individual who is going to have a sensual massage, it is an opportunity for them to lay completely naked and have their entire body touched and stroked all over without any sexual connotation although arousal is very likely. But the main reason to go for a sensual massage is for the relaxation, stress release and enhancement of one's perception which enables a person to better interact with and perceive the world around them.
Sensual massage is also a helpful tool for couples to grow their relationships and it's great for low libido and even problems with fertility. It is a part of the holistic equation of treating the whole person and sensual massage plays a role in Tantra. Sensual massage should not be compared to tantra massage, erotic or nuru massage, more information can be found in the books below.
Sensual massage stimulates and restores sensitivity
Sensual Massage for Couples
This is the most comprehensive Gordon Inkeles massage book, with a spectacular full body massage, exercise and bath tips and hundreds of sensation enhancers. It's an ideal gift book for those who are romantically inclined.
Step-by-step illustrations and great tips for erotic stimulation show you how to enrich you love-making through the power of touch. The book features more than 200 all new erotic and vibrant photographs which demonstrate sensual touching.
Erotic Passions: A Guide to Orgasmic Massage, Sensual Bathing, Oral Pleasuring
This guide to orgasmic massage, sensual bathing, oral pleasuring, and ancient sexual positions is a menu of sexual pleasures crafted by a human sexuality expert. Full-colour illustrations.
Blow Him Away: How to Give Him Mind-Blowing Oral Sex
Keep him begging for more . . .
It's nothing to be ashamed of. When it comes to performing oral sex, most people fall somewhere between fumbling and clueless. But now, in "Blow Him Away you'll find practical, easy-to-master techniques that will give you the confidence and skills you need to become an expert in the delicate art of fellatio.
Inside you'll find:
- Exercises to whip your tongue, lips, and jaw into shape so you can perform with exquisite control.
- An anatomy class you need to pass.
- Sensual kisses to get you both ready for the main event.
- No-nonsense instructions for how to perform sensational oral sex, blow-by-blow.
- Advice on how to keep your mind from spoiling your head.
- Advanced techniques to wake up the neighbors.
- Positions that will make his knees melt.
Read "Blow Him Away alone or with the companion edition, "The Lowdown on Going Down, for knee-buckling oral sex--every time.
Mars and Venus in the Bedroom: A Guide to Lasting Romance and Passion
The author of the phenomenal No. 1 "New York Times" bestselling "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" reveals the secrets of how to keep the fires of passion burning and achieve greater intimacy in long-term, monogamous relationships.