A new and dangerous social paradigm
While sex without kissing for the most part throughout human history has been the prerogative of the soldier/rapist who were typically all men and sex workers who are typically women, sex without kissing was once very rare. A kiss is coming together in intimacy in many forms, it's a declaration of acceptance, trust and affection, and often times used to convey a progression towards deeper intimacy.
Of course there are times when lovers come together with such intense desire that they forgo kissing, but the increasing openness of society in terms of knowledge that is often distorted, and the ease of the Internet that is saturated with pornography is creating this new dynamic.
It seems for the girls that this is something they feel compelled to participate in and if we look at the society of the USA, the education system for girls grooms them to be sex objects. They are virtually trained to be attentive to men and their needs which is perhaps typified in the cheerleading curriculum where good-looking girls are encouraged to provocatively display their bodies in return for adoration and financial reward at the expense of any real education.
But it's not just girls, this is also typical of the football hero who as long as he can participate on the basis of some conversation, knows how to look good and doesn't suffer from premature ejaculation can do very well in life. In effect, sex had become a great sport as well as an entertainment that is portrayed daily on our TV screens and in a great deal of marketing media.
Therefore kids growing up in this sexualised society are corrupted before they even know that they are corrupted and it takes considerable effort on their part as well is a degree of good fortune to break out the compulsive and addictive behavioural cycle.
Webites like fightthenewdrug.org have been writing extensively on this and because of such huge social problem, it needs a lot more discussion and some governments are being proactive by trying to understand the problem through surveys and talking to the addicted.
Girls on one hand are told they can do anything and that there is an equality of the sexes. These are ideals that have yet to come to any maturity and most young people are caught between a rock and a hard place - actually is more like a landslide of conflicting information. It is true that some girls can do anything and if they have sufficiently wise and well educated parents they may have a better chance of appreciating where they are in life and be able to act responsibly.
Webites like fightthenewdrug.org have been writing extensively on this and because it's such huge social problem, it needs a lot more discussion and some governments are being proactive by trying to understand the problem through surveys and talking to the addicted.
Girls on one hand are told they can do anything and that there is an equality of the sexes. These are ideals that have yet to come to any maturity and most young people are caught between a rock and a hard place - actually is more like a landslide of conflicting information. It is true that some girls can do anything and if they have sufficiently wise and well educated parents, they may have a better chance of appreciating where they are in life and be able to act responsibly.
"It is a Given that if you are a Man Attracted to Women that you Enjoy a Naked Body and Sex. From the Stand Point of Fully Functioning Human Body~This is Expected. Well Great~ What Else? Is What Any Good Woman Wants to Know. What Are Your Interests? What are The Dreams and Aspirations of Your Heart. What makes you Light and Playful? What takes you into the Mystery~and makes you go Deep? You Must Know these things about Yourself and Learn to Express Them. Because you See~ Women Love Sex too. From a Connected Man Who Will Talk to Them~ and Listen. That’s it. That’s the Secret. This is how you tap into the Endless Well of Shakti. Presence. If You Can’t Be Shiva~ Don’t Expect to Play with The Goddess." sacredfemininegypsyheart on Tumblr
While girls are for the most part coerced into compliant behaviour in order to gain acceptance, they are to a larger extent than boys kept in touch with their own intimate nature due to the rhythm of their reproductive cycle. In contrast, boys are often addicted to porn and have high expectations of themselves, that is inflated egos which demands the compliance of girls in order for them just to feel okay.
Therefore boys are more likely to suffer from anxiety and depression, and to overcome this, they are likely to turn to rape drugs which makes scoring easier or if they're not particularly adept then they are more likely to use sexual stimulants although some reports indicate that Long is a boy has done the deed girl at least commends him in his ego may remain intact.
When the boy who is perhaps not a very pleasant person and who is not very adept when it comes to the act of having sex encounters what he considers as a "less than perfect" sexual partner, he is likely to be more prone to violence and other destructive behaviour.
"Sexual bullying and harassment are part of daily life for many girls growing up as a part of this digital generation. Young girls are speaking out more and more about how these practices have links with pornography—because it’s directly affecting them. Pornography is moulding and conditioning the sexual behaviours and attitudes of boys, and girls are being left without the resources to deal with these porn-saturated boys.
If there are still any questions about whether porn has an impact on young people’s sexual attitudes and behaviours, perhaps it’s time to listen to young people themselves. Girls and young women describe boys pressuring them to provide acts inspired by the porn they consume routinely. Girls tell of being expected to put up with things they don’t enjoy."
However the epitome of this story is to be found within political Islam where any woman who is not appropriately dressed as a Moslem is fair game for rape as is becoming all too common throughout Europe as hundreds of thousands of poorly educated young men flood European cities. These men have been denied what most Westerners would consider normal social relationships and the opportunity to be genuinely intimate with their female peers. Unfortunately, this attitude fuelled by watching many hours of pornography every week is undermining the social structure of what we refer to as Western civilisation although Asian cultures are not immune from this either.
In order to counter this trend, the world needs parents who take the responsibility as parents to oversee the lives of the children even though in this new age of political correctness it is seen to be forbidden and use should have free license to wreck their lives and the lives of those around them.
The girls who are forced and acquiesced to boys demands may also become the victims of bullying and other forms of coercion leading to permanent physical and mental harm. Conversely the boys were acting out their fantasies may never come to know themselves as responsible human beings.
There is nothing wrong with sex and there is nothing wrong with young people having sex, but sex is one of the greatest pleasures in life, therefore it needs to be taken seriously to ensure protection against STDs and unwanted pregnancies. But most importantly, couples need to be able to have that intimate conversation, to spend time kissing and cuddling which sets the stage for mutually beneficial and healthy sex and equitable relationships.