Sex Education

Essential knowledge for life

ycoupHuman sexuality is an ongoing exploration as we are creative creatures, but sexuality is governed by ignorance, religions, politics, cultural and community beliefs. Sex pervades our lives at every level, it is widely used to sell products and services as well as to win influence or impose control in many spheres of life.

On one level, sex is just a simple act to cause impregnation and we are biologically programmed to do this, yet due to social controls, many are confused about relating and sex. Because so many misunderstand relationships, relationship failures, rape and other coercions are a huge social and criminal problem.

At a personal level knowing one's body is vital and this knowledge is both about the body, how it functions and what's needed to make it feel good. At a social level, it is knowing how to relate, but firstly individuals must learn how to make themselves into pleasant human beings from where the act of sex comes easier.

There is no right or wrong, there is a choice between
pleasure and pain. morality is a construct for social control.
In these pages there are no rules and many anecdotal stories
depicting how people have managed their life situations
from which you can extract ideas on how to respond to life.

What is sex?

People define sex in different ways. Some people believe that sex only occurs if a penis goes into a vagina, but this isn't true for everybody and few seem to talk about trust and intimacy. There's imaginary sex - yes all just a figment of your imagination that often leads to masturbation or plucking up the courage to ask a significant other person to engage with you in some kind of sexual act so:

The different types of sex:

  • Masturbation - self pleasuring your own genitals and this is important as you discover things that you like or dislike.
  • Dry humping or genital rubbing usually through clothing. You do this when you're out somewhere or you're horny but aren't ready to go further. Some kids actually orgasm and wet their pants doing this.
  • Mutual masturbation - this maybe foreplay or as far as you're comfortable going. It's preceded by establishing a feeling of trust and intimacy, an expression of desire and complementary speech then using your hands to give each other pleasure through what is essentially a mutual genital massage.  Everyone responds differently, this is an important part of love making and there's often some cleaning up of body fluids required after.
  • Oral sex - mouth-to-genital contact which increases sexual excitement. It can follow on from the points above and it's a nice way of sharing pleasure when there are no condoms on hand although it's still possible to contract an STD if one partner is infected.  When the guy ejaculates, partners have a choice of swallowing and no mess to clean away.
  • Vaginal sex - penis-in-vagina intercourse - this is the primary goal, to get in there and enjoy what many say is amazing pleasure. It's true we are built for pleasure, it's natures way of encouraging us to reproduce.  As well as the risks of pregnancy and STD transmission, there can be a lot of body fluids to deal with as well as premature ejaculation and a host of other problems.
  • Anal sex or penis-in-anus intercourse. This has been popularised and avoids pregnancy, but the bowel should be evacuated and even an enema used to make the activity more hygienic.  The anus is not as accommodating as a vagina and it takes patience and careful practise to preform safely and enjoyably.

However you define it, being sexual with another person means you need to be responsible and it takes time to learn this without killing the passion of the moment.

Before you even get together with someone to have sex, think about what things you feel comfortable doing, and if there are consequences to them (like STDs or pregnancy). It's just as important to think about what you DON'T feel comfortable doing. And if you're in the middle of doing something that you thought you wanted to do, but change your mind, that's OK, too. You can stop any time you want to.

If you're going to have any sex, talk with your partner about how you'll protect yourselves against STDs. If one of you has a penis and the other has a vagina, and you're having the kinds of sex that can cause pregnancy, it's also important to use birth control if you don't want to get pregnant.

Within this site there are many anecdotal stories relating to relationships, sex and the human condition. So this section contains many scenarios in which people come to have sex and survive. Sex - one of the many failures of modern civilisation.

Planned parenthood


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