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Sex Positions For Female Orgasm

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Orgasm for men and women is a peak of sexual pleasure that engenders a sense of well-being and connectedness with one's sexual partner. But according to recent sex surveys, only about 20% of women reach orgasm during intercourse on a regular basis, some say they can climax from time to time but many have never or rarely orgasm.

There are many reasons why women in particular fail to achieve a satisfactory orgasm during intercourse. These include a level of dysfunction and a lack of pleasantness within the relationship, other stress factors which are occupying her mind, the physical aspects about her body and even a level of ignorance about her body that serves to disable sexual function. We are assuming that this is a male to female relationship and that regardless of penis size, he has a degree of competence, is also not affected by circumstances and is available to meet her needs.

It is clear that orgasmic intercourse is a rarity for many woman (and some men) and this article addresses some physical aspects. One of the most important aspects for every woman is that she be comfortable with her own body and knowledgeable about her sexual functionality. Bodily comfort can be enhanced by spending time naked and regular masturbation as well as sex generates knowledge and confidence.

Nearly all women experience consensual sex as pleasant or pleasurable even when not fully orgasmic. There will always be times like this and there is no way to ever guarantee an orgasm with every act of intercourse.

Action steps to improve your chances of orgasm

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Know your body and make sure he also knows

There is no rule as to time and place but the stronger the desire for sex the better are your chances of achieving an orgasm.

When desire meets opportunity coupled with a genuine liking or enjoyment of being with that significant other person, the better your chances.

His competence, knowledge and willingness to perform is essential, but sometimes I woman must give him some guidance. Here you must be careful not to act bossy or come across as demanding because they could put him off.

You must remember that you are more than just your sexual parts, the art of making love includes mind, personality and the entirety of your body. Therefore the more time you spend in foreplay and including the entirety of your body, the more responsive your genitals are likely to be. This is one of the reasons why massage is such a useful art for lovers.

The most sensitive area of the genital region is the clitloris, but this is much more than just the small bump that you can feel externally, it occupies a greater area of the virginal opening as you can see in the image below right. Therefore effective positions allow either the male or female partner to stimulate the entirety of the clitoris during sex.

Achieving the best results from sexual intercourse as always experimental, but as I've said, getting to know your body through masturbation and regular sexual intercourse enables you to adjust in order to increase or decrease the level of sensitivity that you are experiencing.

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The complete clitoral body - Wiki image

A lot of people rave about the G spot, but when sex is done well, the entirety of one's body can be just as sensitive. The G spot itself is generally referred to as being within the ribbed area you can feel in behind your pubic bone. But this area is not always the most sensitive as the external clitoris is not always the most sensitive spot.

The nicest orgasms are often those where both partners climax together and many women find that his ejaculation also heightens her sense of orgasm. But this is not a reason to disregard safe sex as precautions must always be taken to avoid STDs and unwanted pregnancy.

Tip; By clenching her PC muscle, a woman can increase the pressure on her partner’s penis, and thereby increase the pleasure she feels in any position.

Positions allow for easy access to her clitoris during sex

Woman on top works well because when a woman is on top she can alter the angle of penetration by leaning forwards or backwards, she can change the degree of pressure on her clitoris by pressing her pelvis more firmly against his body, and adjust the sexual pace so that she can get just as aroused as her male partner.

For example, she can stop riding her partner so his arousal remains constant, while she uses clitoral self-stimulation to enhance her own excitement. Every woman should take the initiative from time to time to be on top. It's very versatile and liberating. Not only can she self stimulator self while she controls the angle and depth of penetration in order to find out what gives her the most pleasure, he can relax and watch or uses hands to fondle her thighs or breasts.

There are many variations to this, you can be on top in a reverse missionary position or you can squat with your feet either side, or you can kneel, or you can put your feet nearer to his chest and leaned back onto your hands. But whichever positions you try, slide up and down his penis so that you can create nice feelings inside your own body, but also engage with him.

The classic missionary position, but instead of the usual in and out thrusting routine, get into close bodily contact with his penis fully inside and then rock gently, so that his pubic bone presses on her clitoris in a rhythmic motion which often brings her to orgasm.

There are many variations which include:

  • Having a small pillow under your bum to allow for slightly deeper penetration.
  • Opening your legs as wide as you can which again allows for a slightly deeper penetration but it also changes the internal shape of the vagina creating different sensations.
  • Similarly bending your knees and laying them wide apart or pulling them up and holding with your hands increases the pleasure. But to go further you can bring your knees right up so that your legs can rest over his shoulders. But if you are very supple you can cross your ankles behind your head or other tricks.
  • In it's also a good idea to experiment using your PC muscles and trying to grip his penis which again changes the sensations in the vagina. The fact is a good idea to do regular PC exercises because it enhances the circulation and the sensitivity of the genital region.

This is not all about you, it can be very nice when he slowly slides in and out to his full depth with a slight pause making contact with the external clitoris or sometimes grinding down. If a man is reasonably dexterous he can grind down and move his hips so that his penis makes a nice circular motion inside the vagina.

Rear-entry sex positions can be a pleasing possibility. Because the man is behind his partner, he can easily reach round and add to her pleasure by manually stimulating her clitoris as he thrusts. If she prefers, she can do this herself, pacing her arousal so that she comes before her partner does.

There are many variations which include:

  • Doggy style, her on her hands and knees with him kneeling and entering from behind. If he is not strong, she can kneel on the side/end of the bed so he can stand and perform.  Here he is mostly in control though she can push back against him.
  • With her laying face down and him on top. He has the option of laying forwards and taking his weight on his elbows or kneeling up. Sometimes this position allows some G spot connection and it's a nice alternative to missionary style.
  • From here it's also easy to roll sideways without losing contact. In this spooning position, she can more easily self stimulate or experiment by raising one leg and letting him use his hand.

There are many other six positions and variations within those positions, but hopefully you've gained a little insight and incentive to experiment.

Other tips

If the man has a very small penis, vigorous thrusting is often required to generate significant pleasure.
If the man ejaculates too soon, this can sometimes be overcome with more foreplay, massage and other relaxation techniques. Sometimes it may also require medication but it can also be a lack of real intimate connection.

Where a woman is excessively prudish, she is not going to be relaxed in such an intimate act. Solutions here and include spending more time naked either alone or in company, masturbation and sexual experimentation. Sex is not a moral issue, it's simply about having pleasure and doing it in a way that is satisfying and it is no one else's business.

Many people suffer from an inadequate level of nutrition, so sometimes over-the-counter medications and aphrodisiacs can be used to increase genital sensitivity and nutritional products can be used to bolster body chemistry and blood flow to the genitals.

Good sex is an integral part of our humanity, but like everything else in life, it's largely experimental. None of us were ever taught how to have sex, we were left to find out through trial and error. Unfortunately some people actually pass through life without knowing the joy of sex and perhaps it's time our children were taught properly to ensure that their sex lives are less problematic.

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2 comments to Sex Positions For Female Orgasm

  • jane

    Thank you for sharing, personally I prefer being on top and in control

  • Allison

    I like almost any position but the Rocking Horse is best. He sits cross legs with me facing him in his lap and my legs around him. Because he’s tall, I can look into his eyes and kissing is easy. As I lift up and down, I can change the angle for best effect and it’s not always the same. A great way to O

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