Growing up

The origin of the word, “adolescence” is from the Latin verb, “adolescere,” which means, “to grow up.” Adolescence is a transitional stage of physical and mental human development that occurs between childhood and adulthood. This transition involves biological (i.e. pubertal), social, and psychological changes.

The teenage years are from ages 13 to 19. In fact, early adolescence is the most difficult phase of life, as children cannot express their problems correctly because their power of expression and their knowledge of their own psychology are not mature enough. Due to physical changes, hormonal changes, and constantly changing moods, teenaged children have many unexplained and unexpressed problems.

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Growing pains

A girls life

I remember my parents used to argue a lot after which they had noisy sex and things would be okay for a few days. I wasn’t supposed to see all this, but in our small two room apartment there was no way I could avoid knowing everything that went on.

But their relationship became so predictable that I was able to visit my friends when they were fighting although I liked being there when they made up. The walls in our apartment were so thin I made several holes so I could watch them having sex.

The arguing never made sense, but sex looked like fun and before long I was experimenting with boys at school. I

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A young girl’s story of being kidnapped (R)

Thousands of girls disappear every year

Nina was walking home, having enjoyed her day at school and she felt delighted with her school companions and the warm sunny afternoon. When they came to her street, she said goodbye to her friends and thoughtfully turned her mind back to the school lesson of the day as she walked the 200 m to her house unaware of the two men behind her until she was grabbed.

Her world went dark, she was bundled into a vehicle, her mouth, hands and feet bound with tape so she couldn’t move, and her head covered with some rough and scratchy cloth which at the moment was

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Salima's market day

A girls life in Saudi

It took three weeks of pestering before her father gave her permission to go shopping. It was such a relief to be out of the compound and Salima was delighted, even with her Ama in tow. Good Aribic girls are not allowed out without written permission and when the police stopped their car because the driver made a stupid mistake, he scrutinised both women and their permission slip.

Salima was petrified but defiant and they soon continued the the souk. After they left the car, Slaima revelled in the sounds and smells, but her secret wish was to get some Victoria Secret underwear. Ama also had a list, but she let her young charge lead

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I Anna

A story of growing up in promiscuous times

15 years later, I’m doing just fine

I went to a good Catholic school and I studied with a sense of incredulity at all the religious stuff that was put before us. After I’d been reprimanded a few times for asking difficult questions, I learned to shut up and remain fairly inconspicuous.

Like most of the girls, I liked to show off more of my body than was permitted, and I usually managed to get away with a slightly shorter than regulation skirt. After I was 10, I often got away with not wearing a bra even though it was compulsory even for girls without breasts.

My home life was confusing

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Looking Back

Growing up wild in London

An Interview about developing sexuality with a London family when I was studying sociology and working on my thesis at Oxford. While in London I met these people by chance. While I have changed their names to preserve their anonymity, such stories are not that uncommon as when Lord Boothby was having an affair in the Downing Street flat with Harold Macmillan’s wife, Dorothy who was also sharing young boys with Ronnie Kray. The lives of politicians and the rich and famous have always been of interest and even fascination largely due to the antics they get up to. Tom mentions the Profumo affair and before this there was the 1954 affair of Lord Montagu

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Pausing the conversation

Defining relationships

I’ve been reading through other people’s stories and ideas about incest and the changes in human relationships. The Christian moral perspective is that anything other than a unrelated male-female relationship is somehow a crime, an attitude that denies the fact that love can exist independently of this ideal. Disease is not discussed, but must be remembered.

So let’s look at some of these situations.

Incest between a father and daughter, or mother and son:

Within Islam, father and daughter are legal and encouraged. But if these relationships were to produce children, then over time the genetics start to break down and the children of these relationships which we know have happened in royal families who wanted to

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