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Dating and Friendship

An essential partnership

While the social norms in some countries prohibit dating and the allowing of young individuals of the opposite sex to spend time together until their marriage is arranged, in most countries young people grow up with the idea and the expectation of finding true love match.

Like all human relationships there are a great many possibilities but perhaps one of the most insidious is the pressure placed on young people to date members of the opposite sex or even the same gender within their particular social group. This expectation and pressure that is generated creates anxiety and suffering in part because there is no clear discussion and in fact, our socialisation process almost prohibits this discussion.

Conversely

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Observations on Dating

Boy meets girl

Colin here, you could say I began growing up in the mid-90s or at least that was when my interest in the fairer sex surfaced. And so began a five year stint of frequent masturbation as I tried to figure out how to get girls to open their legs.

Looking back perhaps one of my advantages was I was totally comfortable talking to girls but when it came to asking for a date or even just to hang out, I kinda lost my voice (not literally) but I totally lacked the confidence. School would be in class with girls, sometimes exchanging almost flirtatiously smiles and comments but not having the wherewithal soon follow up then of course

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The Mini Skirt

A freedom and celebration of legs

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Way back during the Roman era it was the men who wore miniskirts and because it was colder in Scotland, the Scotsman wore kilts. For the modern woman the age of the miniskirt developed back in the 1950s as a new sense of freedom evolved perhaps echoing the sheer and translucent gowns of the flapper era.

As a baby and as babies still do I was told that when I learned to walk, I had a natural aversion to clothing and mum often told tales of me at bath time running naked and when I learned to dress myself or perhaps I should say and dress myself, I would often

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The Surrendered Single 

A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the Man Who’s Right for You

By Lisa Doyle

This controversial approach to dating has given thousands of single women everything they need to attract romance, intimacy, and a marriage proposal – while answering the question, “Where are all the good men?”

A Surrendered Single doesn’t have to look for Mr. Right – she attracts him.

In her popular workshops, Laura Doyle has taught thousands of accomplished women the principles of The Surrendered Single. They are simple: when you try to control who asks you out, when a man will call, or corner him into a commitment, you drive him away. When you let him woo you instead, tenderness and romance appear. You

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Some Thoughts on Sex

Personal experiences beyond the social norm

Hi Diana, I read with interest some of the sharings by other woman who seemed to be liberally minded about sexuality and sharing their bodies so I thought I’d offer my two cents worth. I’m a Sydney girl aged 18 at the time when I moved out of home and into a flat with three blokes. My initial concern was that they’d try and make me as the only girl in the house do all the domestic chores but fortunately that didn’t happen.

At the time I only saw myself as being average in terms of attractiveness and in hindsight I’m not exactly proud to admit that I did my share of leading boys

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A Caution to Girls

I Was About To Marry My Lover Till I Saw His Facebook Messages:

There are many charming young men seeking attractive girls for pleasure and sometimes to wed. This is a cautionary tale about dating a Muslim boy and how she saved herself ‘just in time’.

Anonymous says:

What I Saw, I’ll Never Be Able To Forget. I am an army brat who has led a very liberal and easy going life. Integrity and honesty were my first and foremost virtues. I belonged to no city because we were transferred every 3 years. Adaptability was my biggest asset.

He belonged to a typical conservative Muslim family living for years in a notorious town of west UP. The family was

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Rough Around the Edges

Dealing with men and trying to find one that’ll do

Hi there, I’m sending you some of my insights and experiences because I enjoyed some of your posts and your readers might learn something. Anyhow, I guess I’m pretty much just an average girl from Lancashire, my parents tried to teach me manners and I gotta admit that they come in handy sometimes.

I’ve got no great expectations in life and like most people, I want to have fun and maybe a family one day. My sex life began when I was 13, I went to a party, the boys got me drunk and I ended up having sex with two of them. It wasn’t all that nice, but it

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When “No” Means “Yes”

The most infamous contradiction

We live in an age of confusion where very few people know their own minds or even have control over their desires. The majority are locked into compulsive behaviours and unable to be truly responsible.

All human beings have an underlying desire to perpetuate our species through the passing on of genetic material. We have evolved the system of marriage as a way to do that which ensures that children have some stability in their lives and every young man and young women has an inherent desire for intimate connection with another human being.

Unfortunately human desires and human sexuality have been been hijacked by capitalism into a great deal of confusion in the population. Education

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Soul Mates

Do you have a soul mate and how do you know who?

One Soul – An illusion by Ines Honfi

The idea of soul mates is something many people dream about in terms of love and relationships. The subject has become immensely popular, many books have been written and many believe their soul mate is out there searching as they are.

The soul mate is loosely defined as a significant other person with whom one can intellectually relate to and empathise with, someone who seems to know what you mean when you say something and can reply in a way that makes sense to you. It is also an element of biochemistry in that your bodies

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A First Date

An Adult Life story

I arranged to meet Dan for a coffee in a waterfront cafe and after my last experience with a guy who turned out to be a total jerk, I took along a couple of girlfriends for backup. My friends and I arrived 15 minutes early and I’d already finished a cup of coffee before I saw Dan arrive.

We’d been talking on friend finder and Skype for a week and I was keen on him. He had a job, a nice car and was planning on buying a house in the near future and I thought that if I could snag him, I might elevate myself in the world because most of my family were

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