A human institution
The joy of marriage
Marriage is a universal human relationship and a social institution that serves the couple and/or society and yet it so often fails so we ask; Does love matter? Do you want to get married? Should you get married? Does your family want you to? Is marriage necessary? Will marriage make a better life?
Marriage is a commitment generally taken for life, yet it has a very high rate of failure and remarriage is a common practice.
For Marriage to work, there must be:
love – is key and the most important aspect. desire – if you don’t’ have desire for the other, why bother? appreciation – if you cannot appreciate or admire
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Finding meaning in the legend
There are many legends of Buddha’s wife, some close to truth and some completely fabricated. But it’s an accepted fact that he was married and left his life in the palace sometime after his marriage.
This is not mentioned in the Tipiṭaka or Pali canon, the collection of primary Pali language texts which form the doctrinal foundation of Theravada Buddhism. In the Tipitaka she is only ever referred to as Rāhulamātā, that is ‘Rāhula’s mother.’ In the earliest reference to her, she is called Bhaddakaccānā, which may be her real name (Bv.26,15) whereas Yasodharā is an honorific title meaning ‘Fame-bearer’ and became the name of legend. Other than this, there is almost no information
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The Story of a A Muslim Wife
Hello, my name is Selena and because so many people have asked what my life was like before I escaped this is the story I would have told them. I was born into a respectable Muslim family but I was married off to Mustapha when I was only 12 years old. His first wife Aisha who was 17 at the time disliked me because when I got married my husband wanted to have sex with me all the time. But after submitting to her authority and my husband lost interest in me and we slowly became friends.
We shared dreams of a Western lifestyle free of the chains that bound us to our
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Marrying a Muslim man and what it represents
Indonesian preacher Pujianto Widiyanto overlooks his new 12-year-old bride and second wife signs on the dotted line as his first wife looks on.
Most girls in the world are taught to regard marriage as one of civilisations highest ideals and marriage is an institution designed to ensure that children grow up in a stable and supportive situation. So in effect girls are groomed and one of their biggest expectations as they move towards puberty and adulthood is that one day they will find a good man and marry him.
The institution of marriage is common to all cultures with some differences. Typically in the Western world the romantic ideal is that
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A Practical Guide to Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace with Your Man
By Laura Doyle
From The Publisher: Fore shadowing the movie The Red Pill by film maker Cassie Jaye exploring the men’s rights movement as opposed to the politically correct feminism that’s rampant, this controversial approach to marriage has transformed thousands of relationships, bringing women romance, harmony, and the intimacy they crave.
Like millions of women, Laura Doyle wanted her marriage to be better. But when she tried to get her husband to be more romantic, helpful, and ambitious, he withdrew — and she was lonely and exhausted from controlling everything. Desperate to be in love with her man again, she decided to stop telling him what to do
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If we look back through history, far back we have the hunter-gatherer tribes where men and women were more equal than the ideal many of us seek today. With the development of agriculture and larger societies, women became more subservient through into the present day where women are fighting for equity in many arenas of life where it’s permitted.
Is There A Perfect Relationship
In many countries we have the idealised “love” relationship, however this is very unstable as we see by the rising divorce rate. There are also the arranged marriages which are often more successful than a love relationship. However throughout history, our relationships and sexuality have been controlled, and adapted by the economic and political
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Sexuality and the human condition in spiritual context
By Gauri Mataji Devi
Many people have heard about the Kama sutra, but generally the ideas that circulate are rather distorted, vague and confused by ignorance and prejudice. Such prejudice is mostly due to the cultural superimposition of layers of prude bigotry and self-righteous moralism brought by iconoclastic Islamic dominator’s and later by Victorian British Christians.
Enforced by the abrahamic invaders, the wholesale condemnation of the intrinsic beauty and joy of the natural form and activities of the body, effectively destroyed the Vedic expressions of beauty and joy, or covered them with the thick plaster of shame.
And that’s not simply a manner of speaking: plaster physically obliterated
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A wife’s indulgences part three
From part two Hi again, last time I wrote to you was just after I’d had amazing sex with a client, but that night my husband Danny was feeling unusually amorous and I found it difficult to relate as usual though he didn’t seem to notice. Then the next morning as I was running about doing my chores in the buff when Jerry’s wife Sally asked if I could come over and give her a hand. I thought nothing of it so I put on one of Danny’s shirts which was handy and it covered me well enough and I ran across the street.
She was fresh out of the shower with a towel
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Do you have a soul mate and how do you know who?
One Soul – An illusion by Ines Honfi
The idea of soul mates is something many people dream about in terms of love and relationships. The subject has become immensely popular, many books have been written and many believe their soul mate is out there searching as they are.
The soul mate is loosely defined as a significant other person with whom one can intellectually relate to and empathise with, someone who seems to know what you mean when you say something and can reply in a way that makes sense to you. It is also an element of biochemistry in that your bodies
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Navigating life, love and marriage
These days many of us grow up with the idea that we will fall in love and live happily ever after, but if we have any awareness of the world, this idea seems increasingly fragile and even improbable. When growing up, most of our parents argued and if you are a parent, it’s likely that you also argue with your partner in front of your children which creates anxiety in children.
One of the problems not only with the idea of modern love but the very foundation of civilisation is based on ideas, not facts. Our history is incredibly brutal and corrupt. It doesn’t matter what country you live in, your political system and
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