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Sex Education

One of the many failures of modern civilisation

For most of us, our parents lives were less than perfect. Like all children, at some point during those formative years, the opposite sex became attractive giving rise to sexual feelings without necessarily having any intellectual appreciation of what was happening.

The transition from childhood through adolescence can be a biochemical nightmare for a great many children. They have hormones flowing through their bodies and sometimes uncontrollable urges are so strong that they have to quickly find a private space to relieve themselves through masturbation or some other activity that relieves the pressure of that energy building up inside of them.

As our parents left us to navigate sexuality alone, most parents

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The Origins of Marriage

How the institution came to be and what is best?

Published 29 Dec 2015 – updated Sept 12 2018

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In Europe before 1100 A.D. people wanting to join together for fun, to raise a family and what might be seen as marriage just got on with it. But with the growth of European civilisation there was a problem surrounding inheritance and being absolutely sure the ‘right’ child was being left the family fortune, because in those days the oldest child or the oldest boy child inherited the family assets.

To resolve this issue, the Catholic church came up with the idea of a church sanctified marriage which coincidently helped to fill their coffers. They also

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Human Sexuality

A major confusion

Published on: 29 Dec 2015 updated August 20, 2018

There is about as much consensus in society about sexuality as there is about spirituality, and more sex happens in peoples minds than their genitals.

Confusion arises because those who assume moral leadership say one thing and do another. Couple this with the ongoing deconstruction of our societies by social and economic forces.

Sigmund Freud described sexuality as the driver of our psychology and a motivator for all our behaviour which remains relevant today.

But the primary drive to have sex comes from a base biological desire to pass on our genes and perpetuate our species. The desire to breed is an instinctive and powerful force

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Casual Sex

One of humankind’s favourite though sometimes risky pastimes

In the Western world despite the imposing morality of church and state, we live in a world now where sex before marriage is completely normal.

In this modern era many people indulge their sexual fantasies through force, these are generally short-term and could be classified as casual that the casual rapist is a burden on civilisation.

It seems so odd that we live in a world where the girls have been trained to so they don’t yet amongst a group of men there is often some bragging about some form of casual sex or perhaps exotic sex that came unexpectedly.

Few people seem to be aware that sex is not just the

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Some Thoughts on Sex

Personal experiences beyond the social norm

Hi Diana, I read with interest some of the sharings by other woman who seemed to be liberally minded about sexuality and sharing their bodies so I thought I’d offer my two cents worth. I’m a Sydney girl aged 18 at the time when I moved out of home and into a flat with three blokes. My initial concern was that they’d try and make me as the only girl in the house do all the domestic chores but fortunately that didn’t happen.

At the time I only saw myself as being average in terms of attractiveness and in hindsight I’m not exactly proud to admit that I did my share of leading boys

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A History of Sex

And the evolution of the human condition

For many people, sex is something of a mystery, an obsession, highly pleasurable but also highly regulated. Some say that sex is a part of our primal nature and akin to the essence of life itself in part because every second, millions of cells are being born within our bodies.

Sex is elemental to life without which we would not exist. We turn to sex in the desire to breed, sharing joys, relieving sorrows and despite all the different moral codes around the world, and all ways of relating over our history, sex is not well understood and often badly performed.

Sex is one of the most obvious features of our dualistic world

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Sex as a Career?

Women have been counselled to become sex workers

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The concept of a woman offering sex for money and other favours is generally thought of as the world’s oldest profession and as far as we know, there has never been a time in human history where this has not occurred.

Today in many countries despite the cries of some moralists, what many regard as prostitution has been legalised in many countries. Yet when we look at many marriages, they are often little more than agreements validating sex for money.

Yet moralists around the world even though they may be prostituting themselves condemn the activity of the women who make themselves available to men,

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Male Continence

The importance of saving your sperm

John Humphrey Noyes came up with the idea of Male Continence back in the 1840’s as a means of preventing unwanted conception, without injury to either husband or wife and ended up with some 250 people living a communal lifestyle where all men and women of the community were married to each other which stirred up a lot of negative criticism at the time which one would expect as the US is a fairly puritanical country.

However he had a great many enquiries from intelligent men and women in ordinary married life seeking information about Male Continence after seeing and suffering the miseries of involuntary propagation which at the time was remarkable for its

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Sex is Allright

I wonder how and how much others consider sex?

Hi Dianna, recently I have been trying to have some meaningful conversations with my girlfriends about sex, but they are all too shy which is why I am writing to you.

For myself, I think that sex is fun and because there are so many guys around wanting sex, it’s really easy to indulge. But I try not to indulge too often, not so much because I don’t want to, but rather it seems like every girl and every adult around me doesn’t want me to. But generally I try to ignore them, but it means that I have to be fairly discrete.

Anyhow a few weeks ago we (my family)

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Sex Talk

A conversation recorded

My sister Ciara and her friend Sandy were a little bored as they sat watching the rain running down the windows. I’d just stacked fire and I think they’d forgotten I was still there doing some homework, but it was hard not to hear what they were saying and this is some of their conversation.

Sandy: what is it about men Ciara? You know I quite like Alfie, in many ways he’s really nice and I feel strongly attracted to him but he’s really useless at sex.

Ciara: unfortunately I kinda know what you mean because most of the boys I’ve been with just please themselves and sometimes I just can’t be bothered having sex because I’m

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