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Wet Dreams

Nocturnal emissions

Wet Dreams are generally defined as erotic dreams that culminate in orgasm and/or ejaculation for boys. They are a normal part of life and experienced by almost every boy growing through puberty and may continue through adulthood,  girls have similar experiences.

It is generally believed that most all teenagers and young adults have wet dreams from time to time and this is a normal and healthy part of life. If you are at all concerned about your wet or erotic dreams, don't be because they are a normal part of life, but unfortunately like the confusion around sex and other aspects of life we don't understand, it's not often talked about.

As a parent, you need to understand that wet dreams are natural and uncontrollable. Showing any displeasure towards your child is an act of violence even if it's only your attitude and not you belt. Most kids will be embarrassed and try to cover up by offering to do their own laundry, but it's you duty to be supportive and perhaps tell your kids about your own wet dream experiences.

Not everyone remembers these dreams, for many boys, they simply find a wet patch in their bed that they may feel embarrassed by knowing that their mother will see the evidence and possibly think that they had been masturbating. So if your a mother reading this, please do not make a fuss, just realize your child is growing toward adulthood and it easily washes out of the sheets.

Families haven't always been kind to wet dreamers and in the 18th and early 19th centuries it was though of as a disease with circumcision and castration used as treatment. Fortunately wet dreams are much better accepted as a normal part of our humanity and some research is continuing toward more understanding.

Why do we have wet dreams?

There is no definitive answer, but here are some opinions:

  • Because we live in such a highly sexualised society, it is the mind that is attempting to process all that information during sleep time which results in a nocturnal emission.
  • Stress release - it is well known that orgasm releases a great deal of stress and as we live in a virtual sea of sexual tension this must be one of the primary causes of erotic dreams.
  • Connection - of the male and female elements of the personality. This is the simple psychology that everyone has male and female aspects to their character and the erotic dream balances these two aspects.
  • Simple desire - you may know a person you are highly attracted to and as yet have not become lovers. The desired other is manifested in the dream state where you make love. This is an interesting scenario as there have been reports of these dreams being mutually experienced by both people on the same night which leads to ideas of extra sensory perception.
  • Some medics say that every night our bodies go through a resting test our sexual body parts.  During sleep observations, it has been reported that we all become sexually aroused between four and six times during sleep every night and that orgasm may simply be part of this process.

How often do they occur?

Every person is different, they can occur several times per night but may only occur once or twice a month.  Some people report regular or intermittent wet or erotic dreams over periods of weeks, months or even years. They may become less frequent or stop when in a sexual relationship, but they may not.

Can wet dreams be prevented?

No

Ways to get some sleep:
The short answer is no. Despite the condemnation and beating of children by parents and carers, the misguided view that this was some kind of disease, there is no known treatment for stopping the occurrence of wet and erotic dreams. Some believe that masturbation and sex before sleep reduces the chance of experiencing wet dreams but there is no guarantee that this will work.

Until we fully understand our own human nature we can only make educated guesses to why we have erotic dreams or why we dream at all. All we can do is appreciate that erotic dreams are an integral part of our lives to be accepted and enjoyed without any recriminations, blame or fear. The physical experience of wet and erotic dreams is one of pleasure even when not remembered, so relax, put aside any inhibitions and celebrate this unique aspect of your humanity.

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